We don’t know what’s coming or when. We can plan , we can predict and can prepare ourselves waiting for the next venture to unfold before us.

By Shajiya Khanom    

Everyone is waiting for something constantly. Healing? Promotion? Opportunities? Marriage? Academic results? Job? No matter what you are waiting for, it is always hard to enjoy this “waiting segment” because we focus so much about how much better things will be when we reach out goal. Most people don’t know, but there’s an art to the ability to wait for something and learn a worthy lesson at the same time.

Dear readers, today I am going to share one harsh reality we face as human beings, something I had experienced while waiting in a doctor’s chamber. I felt like I was living in another world for those few hours, while waiting along with all the other patients. I believe that learning from others struggles shows your maturity only if it is shared and brought to light.

Observation

While waiting in a Child  Neurologist’s chamber 

Two years ago, for the first time in my life, I went to see a Pediatric Neurologist along with my three year old son. There was a reason – but today my story is not about why I was there. It’s about what I experienced there that has rephrased my concept of “waiting for the end of sufferings” into “fight back and move on” because that is what life is all about.

I was there for more than three hours, along with a toddler who was fidgeting after getting tired of sitting down calmly for a long time. I was basically roaming around the waiting room with my baby boy walking around here and there. The room was mostly occupied by parents with their kids and toddlers. I’m not one to really notice much about the people around me, especially if I don’t know them, but the presence of all the tiny little patients with serious physical and mental difficulties created an out of the world experience. It was as though I couldn’t help but read and feel those parents’ emotions. I kept wondering how they got the strength to deal with some of the world’s toughest challenges in their lives. found myself surrounded by people with the most strongest value system.

         

Conversation 

There was a father who had been sitting on the opposite side of me, holding his baby who looked to be about 5 or 6 months old. The baby’s mother and uncle were also there. I don’t want to start the story describing their appearances or any intro .I would rather like to focus on how I motivated by them on that day .I don’t know why I felt like asking the father about the baby because usually I tend to avoid talking to people unknown to me. 

I asked him, “what is wrong with your baby?” He was exhausted and was almost lying on the chair yet held the baby perfectly. 

He replied, “we actually do not know. My baby was perfect but at the beginning of the month, he just stopped moving, sleeping, and making sounds. Now he just stares.”

I was surprised because the baby looked so perfect. Then I carefully looked at him and realized that the baby really is doing nothing but staring. 

The father said, “it has been a month. We saw several doctors and even went to India for his treatment but no one could identify the cause. Now here we are. We have heard a lot about this doctor.”

I asked him, “where are you from? What is your serial number?”

The father said “We live in a village named… (somewhere far from Dhaka city) and we haven’t made an appointment. We just heard about him and took the bus, wasting no time.”

I said, “there are 20 more patients still waiting and it’s 7pm, how long can you wait with a sick baby ! Go to the receptionist and try to make an appointment for tomorrow.”

The mother had not spoken this whole time but suddenly she replied with desperation – “we came here with great hope and we will wait until the last patient is gone. Time isn’t the factor. We will fall to the doctors feet and beg him to see our child.”

Motivation 

On that day, I was waiting in that waiting room with a broken heart and a restless mind. I wasn’t prepared for such a conversation. At one point, I realized my vision had gotten blurry with tears. I stopped talking and just observed them. Then I took a look around me. I didn’t see sadness or disappointment on their faces. I don’t have words to describe such saintly faces. I now believe that those are the faces of “strong people” who know how to fight back and take challenges of life spot on!

The parents I met that day chose to wait for the sake of their child’s betterment. Not only them, but I had witnessed the other parents’ patience and determination while waiting. It is important to understand that every hardship we face in life requires “a waiting phase.” We do not like to wait. That’s why for most people, a waiting room is one of their least favorite places to be. Whether it be at the train station, at the bus station, or at the airport. Whether it be in a doctors chamber or in the office for an interview. No matter where we are waiting, to me, the “waiting room” is a crucial segment of life that reflects a condition of wanting to be someplace else but not being able to get to that desired destination right away. 

Dear readers, you are not allowed to skip the “waiting phase” if you want to achieve anything in life. Waiting for someone or something is a prerequisite for the next step in your life. It is like a “no man’s time” situation, similar to the concept of “no man’s land.” An unexpected situation of activity that no one controls because it belongs neither to you nor to that person/thing you are waiting for.

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